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Frankly I wish I was more like you in being more comfy with men. I think it is a father thing in some ways. Either recreating your relationship or looking for what you missed. Were you closer to your mom or your dad. Just reaching for things... I really do not know.

You do have some success here in meeting men...wise or not. Maybe indeed he is just bringing it to your attention. I guess I am not sure what the question is..... Care to expand a bit more??

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(((((secret))))) I hope you are doing good. I do not have a typical father daughter relationship with my dad. He's very emotionally abusive, controlling, violent, angry, tense. He's what I like to call 'like a bull in a china shop'...he's 100% Italian and if you are familiar with Tony Soprano

Maybe he meant that he wants me to see that these male coworkers have poor boundaries and other women would not tolerate it. They probably think more of themselves than I think of myself...maybe my hysterical self is encouraging this in them and they see it and pounce?

I keep trying to tie this to the analysis he gave me a few weeks ago that he sees hysterical, obsessive and dependent qualities in me...I don't think he meant that in a bad way but I'm sure there is a link here...