Well, if you're looking for a life partner right now then maybe put that in your profile on a dating site and see if anyone is looking for that also and has similar interests as you? For your AvPD, are you on medication - I don't think meds really help personality disorders, but I'm just wondering if you're on anything for any anxiety you might have, or are you doing any exposure therapy? I understand the internet being the easiest place to communicate and meet people. I understand that very well and it's frustrating and I understand being socially paralyzed when face to face with someone. I started drinking alcohol because of that (not that I'm advocating it, hah) and I always plan things to say ahead of time and just kinda force myself to say them and if we click then sometimes the talking gets easier.

I do want to say that I think you put too much pressure on finding a relationship that's going to save you. Sharing your life with someone could make you happier, but. I feel like that's not healthy right now. I might not be wording this exactly the way I intended to, but I hope you understand what I'm trying to say.