almedafan, I don't think it is unusual or wrong or inappropriate to have become seriously involved with men at work and ended up marrying them (twice!). Work is where we spend a lot of our time. It would be very inefficient if we could only become involved with people who don't work with us. I'm not talking about supervisor-supervisee relationships, but ones with your peers at work. I am a scientist and almost all my scientist friends married other scientists who they met at work. We just spend so much time there, especially in our looking-for-mates years, that it is natural.

I find it intriguing and worth exploring that you don't like to have female bosses. I have had both male and female bosses. Whether they were good or bad bosses did not seem to correlate with whether they were male or female. Sometimes people of a certain personality type can talk down to you. When men do it (e.g. a male boss), I am left wondering, is this person just a jerk or is he talking down to me because I'm a woman and therefore he thinks he's better than I am? (I'm sure that thought originated with my experience with my father, an engineer, who used to tell me how he couldn't stand female engineers, that they were stupid and he hated to have to talk to them about work. Way to go, Dad, what a great attitude to let your daughter see.) I don't have this doubt with women. If a woman is being a jerk, I know she is simply a jerk!

almedafan, that is such good news that the scheduling worked out!