I was terminated by my T some months ago and I´m now still looking for a new T. Although the termination was abrupt and the decision was my therapists I still miss her, I feel sad and I still like her very much.

I´ve read a lot about termination and that feelings for a T when you have to leave is just transference, feelings you´ve felt for another person in your life, for example ones mother.

I can´t think of any occation at all when I felt this strongly about my mother or any other relative. I understand my feelings for my T isn´t about her as a private person but the person who listened to me and talked to me in a very rewarding way.

I can´t really understand how this can be just transference? I think of my former T every day, several times a day and I just cry.

It doesn´t help at all spending time with my parents or other relatives, I feel a bit distant to them and I felt a more close connection to my T than to my own relatives. Is it still just a matter of transference?