Hello nona2112, welcome to Psych Central.

So you contacted your best friend before and after the surgery. You say that your best friend ignored you when you regained access to the computer, do you know that she was ignoring you for sure? Could it be that she was unable to reply to you due to the surgery. When you went to visit, who did you get the cold treatment from? Your friend or the husband? I don't know the dynamics of the friendship and the husband, has the husband usually been accepting of your friendship or has there been friction before? Sorry for all the questions but from what you have written, it sounds like it is the husband that is upset and some assumptions have been made. Talk to your best friend when you can.