I'm not sure if I understand, but my sense is that there is a distinction made between being with someone and analyzing something? I was just reading about how therapists choose different ways depending on what the client needs. Sometimes analysis or interpretation can interfere with the positive effects of the relationship. At other times though analysis is needed to effect a change because something different happens when you verbalize, narrate, and become self-reflective. Another aspect of the experience and of the self comes into play. These abilities are associated with different capacities of the self and different developmental tasks.