I feel like the title of this thread is a bit misleading, because it implies my therapist has directly said 'your past isn't important' or something. She has said 'there is nothing we can do about the past.'

Its more that I don't get why she doesn't think I should talk about it so I can have more understanding of what happened and why it happened, so I don't feel like a 'rabbit in headlights' about it all the time. I don't really get that.I thought talking about what happened was good for trauma or am I wrong?