This is an interesting viewpoint. I wouldnīt ask a T on a first or second meeting if she is married or not or if she has kids, in what area she lives and so on but to me it would also feel awkward if a T never told anything about herself after some sessions.
I wouldnīt choose another T if I got to know certain facts about marital or social status but it though matter to me. It seems it doesnīt to most of you who have written a comment to this post. For me I think I can be more open and honest with a T whoīs more like me, a T with a large family, being married to the same guy all her life and so on, I would find such things a bit hard to deal with.
Thatīs because I donīt have children and donīt want to, I live by my own even if I want a relationship some time in the future. A T who lives on her own, even if most people have had some relationships in the past, makes me feel more connected.
Does this make any sense to you who read my post?
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Originally Posted by Petra5ed
I said yes it matters, but I think it would only matter for me in long term therapy where I grew attached to my therapist. For me personally, I think it would seem insulting to not know basic facts about the person I am coughing up all my secrets to, and I would see no professional reason... for example I know my dentist is married and has kids. I don't think I would enjoy working with a blank slate. It wouldn't matter to me if they were married or single, had kids or not, what would matter more was that they wouldn't tell me.
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