I think itīs a very good thing as a client to be able to donīt think of your T as better than you are. For me a T is always "better" when I compare myself to her as she has a job, I donīt, she has her own practise/company and in that respect sheīs more successful than I am and so on.
Itīs impossible for me to look at it in another way. I completely agree with T:s being fallible and human, they are but Iīm still inferior to them. I canīt make anything out of my life whilst the T:s have.
What the T does, how she treats me and so on, does matter a lot to me but I canīt overlook the facts around what she has accomplished in life. It feels like Iīll never be able to succeed in such a way, for example be able to buy a nice flat as I know many T:s have.
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Originally Posted by licketysplit
I've felt hopeless about finding the right therapist, but I never compared myself to them; in fact, I don't think I even thought of them as better than I am. I'm there for myself only. I did have a dream that featured my therapist as fallible and very human. I shared it with her and she loved it, said she was very human, and that all therapists are fallible and imperfect in their lives.
Maybe you would feel better about your prospects if you didn't focus so much on the therapist personally and just looked for someone who knows what they're doing?
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