No one should feel ashamed for being attached to their therapist. In fact I don't even think we have any choice of why her we get attached pr not because in hindsight knowing how much pain the attachment causes I don't believe any of us would choose this. Our bodies and minds choose it subconsciously, looking for the cate and affection we ne er received, those who had secure attachments don't have the same yearnings we do because their needs were met, ours weren't. I am not sure a t with a secure attachment would understand the deep longing we have and the deep needs we have from them . I know my own t had an insecure attachment but gets my needs and wants. She understands because she has been through the same things I have. Asia please don't do what others do and shame yourself because that would be a tragedy. You are entitled to feel like you do and only you know what you have been through and what you need to heal from it