i got a referral from crisis services. i got to talking to the guy about how i was looking for a therapist and he gave me the number of a lady... she wasn't taking on any new clients but she gave me the number of a guy... he gave me the number of another guy... i called him up and he saw me at the clinic... and after some chatting he said he would see me in his private practice (which i was really keen to do).

in a way... i didn't choose him. but in another way i kind of did. i was working with a councellor before i met with him but after he agreed to see me i didn't go back to her again. made a decision, i guess. to be fair... if you lined up all the people i've ever seen... i'd choose him. so thats pretty cool.

i'm happy that he is a guy. i find it much harder to connect with females.

i'm happy that he is taller than me. this is quite bizzare, most properly, but for some reason it means a great deal (probably 'cause i've felt like an oversized elephant much of my life 'cause i'm tall and fairly solid / curvy).

i'm happy that he is kind / soothing and willing to engage with me on theoretical issues.

i don't know how old he is. i really have no idea. i'm fairly terrible with judging ages. i guess i was surprised when he told me that his wife was having a baby. figured he would be done with that already. but... i dunno. i guess he could be mid-late thirties. i have no idea, really. i guess it isn't so surprising. i can't imagine him with a trophy wife and / or homemaker. maybe my transference / projection but i don't see that (i'd be jolly disappointed if i ever met her and discovered some bubbly pretty side-kick). i guess i imagine shes a professional too (no idea what but for some reason i imagine not mental health related). but my transference / projection, of course. but the idea is... that professional people tend to have children later in life. it is possible that i think he is older than he really is... it is possible that they have 5 kids already (even though i'm thinking it is their first). i have no idea really... i wonder if google will tell me his birthday...