Mouse, you ever study Venn Diagrams in maths?

Basically it shows where/how two or more "things" relate, like this:



Your T isn't just you and your therapy anymore than you are just she and your therapy. Her wants are in the other part of her, not related to you and your therapy. She does have wants for you :-) and those are included in the joint parts where you two intersect. But not all of her "fits" in that joint part?

Hope this idea helps a little.