I used to think it was when we gave ourselves with abandon. That meant we trusted. Now I've learned that it's wiser than that. Rather, it's when we've gradually opened ourselves.. but always with enough reserve and wisdom to spot a signal that we should be careful. It's not hard to trust if you always hold each moment of trusting someone in your own hand... don't give it away. Even the people closest to us should have to earn our trust every step of the way.