Gotta say, I agree with Rose 100%. She pointed out some harsh truths from what we see in this thread, and she said it in a very kind fashion.

You've shown over and over and over in your posts on this thread that you're happy with just taking on a victim role, and taking zero ownership over your choices. Yes, your mom is in the wrong. But you don't have to continue being a victim; you choose that. Your only responses to your mom haven't been positive ones to bring about change in yourself.... they're just blame and manipulation that you're trying to use on your mom to punish her and make her feel as miserable as you do. You can't change another person. You can only change yourself; which you seem unwilling to do.