Artchic, I noticed that you mention you already have a job. I assume the job is something you can do from home, such as selling on eBay or writing for a website. Are you able to communicate/network with others who work in your field? If you could work on strengthening you skills work-wise, you may not have time to become attached to people on dating sites.
But then again, I'm digressing away for the husband mission.....