Perhaps you should stress to your daughter that not all bipolars want to commit suicide (even if you sometimes think about it) 9 years old is very young, and she should have the idea that mommy will never go away.

I only say that because I have angry feelings towards my siblings for things I learned about when I was 9. My siblings thought information couldn't harm - but I see how knowing some things to early.

On a positive note - wow how wonderful that you hear your daughter when she speaks. I wish someone had heard me when I was in fifth grade - or heck, any time during those formative years. Parents are so busy telling kids how to act they don't listen. I did that too. I thought I was doing great, but now I look back and just see how much I missed.

To Ozzy - don't wait. Talk to your son, don't tell him not to feel or think what he is feeling or thinking. Listen, and share with him your experiences (filtered but honest).