I had a realization this evening.. (thank you hot shower and no kids to interrupt). I think the reason why I am so stuck on T's comments on Friday is because I am having a different reaction to them. My go to, "safe" I am in control reaction is.. I am angry and I am going to tell you all about it. This time, the comments hurt me. The reason why that is so significant is because in order for me to let people's words hurt me I have to give a heck as to what they are saying. T's words hurt me because that means I do value what he has to say- and to share that with him seems to put me in a very vulnerable place.