I think it depends a bit on the context, and how I feel about what T is saying. Very early on, T was trying to convey that he "cared" about me. I told him that honestly, I didn't think he knew me well enough to care !

Hmm though mostly, I'm not sure if I even hear the nice things... you know, he may be saying them, but I think they sort of just bounce off and I continue with whatever I was trying to explain. Maybe?

Edit to add: Yup, I think that might be what happens. Today, I told T about something that happened with work. And he stopped me to tell me that I handled it in a very mature, healthy way (hmm maybe he was surprised by this, lol!). And I sort of said, "yeah, I do that sometimes" and just kept on with the story! I didn't mean to be snarky (!) but I had just explained to him that I really struggle with feeling divided between my "sane" self and my emotional "crazy" self, so I felt like... of course, clearly that was my sane self, and I *told* you my sane self does *great* in the world. That's not the problem!