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Originally Posted by Restin
Oh, Rainbow, I feel for your fears. Just take it slow and easy with your inner child. You're fortunate to have a T you can trust enough to even mention your child wishes. There are so many therapists a child inside could never dare speak to. It's scary because you're breaking a life-long policy from abuse in early childhood. It takes awhile to even get used to saying the words, but just go easy and not push it too hard.
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. Restin: thank you for replying to me.
The child parts can talk to my T because she has done IFS with me, so she accepts all my parts. What is perplexing is that I do not have a history of abuse. I missed something, maybe because I was in an incubator at a time when it wasn't considered important for preemies to be held. Or maybe my Mom was too anxious and never allowed me to feel safe. Those two scenarios are what my T thinks.
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Originally Posted by guilloche
(((rainbow8))) Good luck today... I wish I had something wise to add, but I think *caring* can be *scary* too... It sounds like you have a great T though, and hopefully you'll more of the good stuff, and less of the scary!  |
Thank you for the hugs, guilloche. Yes, my T is special!
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Originally Posted by Soccer mom
As you saw on my post, I totally relate. I want to ask my T. how to stop wanting to push her away and accept her care and nurturing. I still can't figure out emotionally why I do it when I want every bit of it. Well, I guess I know why but it's so freaking frustrating.
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My T told me it's a pattern. Today we were trying to figure out why I can't accept that good things can happen instead of always thinking the worst. She says she does feel a kind of love for me because of the kind of therapy she practices, (somatic experiencing) using touch, and sitting close to clients. I agree it's hard!
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Originally Posted by growlycat
"light" sessions are ok too! Maybe talk about painting?
My main T says he feels the pressure from me to have every session feel "magical".
Although I have found agenda less sessions pretty interesting at times!
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Thanks, growly. My session turned out not to be light at all. I'm going to start a new thread about it.