Hello I am new. I've been with my fiance for 4 years. I met him at work while I was going through a horrible divorce(w/my abusive ex for 17 years) . From day one he has also made me feel loved and wanted , goes over and beyond for myself and my 2 children(1 in college and at home )
A few months into our relationship he started to play around with Crossdressing. He said he always had a thing for pantyhose etc. He would dress up here and there and pretty much now he wears female undergarments (bra and panty) on a everyday basis. So I mean I think it was something he might have always wanted to do or maybe did but with me being somewhat supportive of him he became comfortable with it and does it all the time . He no longer even owns men's underwear. Nor bought any men's clothing besides swimming trunks last year .
I am not by any means a judgmental type of person. I found if anything I feel less of a women when he looks better in clothes or my clothes for that matter then me. That's something I have to deal with
As of lately I have noticed he has been looking at crossdresser websites,pinning crossdresser outfits/etc on Pinterest , Tgirl type of porn on Tumbler.. even looking at the cost of a sex change.
He started to shave his armpits , legs etc. Paints his toes...
I thought for sure it was just a fetish for him. But now I'm not to sure.
In the bedroom we would have normal love making and he enjoys and requests to be pegged.
He let me know after one lovemaking session recently that he only gets semi erect? Have I noticed? I didn't ?? I'm more in tuned to him/us. Not if he's keeping his hard on! There are times tho that he just wants to cuddle and wont even get hard or eroused. It's very frustrating for me.

In any case I'm at this crossroad where I think he could be Bisexual? or something else? Is it me? I had a health issue and gained 15 lbs and I'm very hard on myself for it and have body issues . So I do at times think am very judgemental of myself. Depressed at times, lonely, etc
I don't know I really try supporting him and never put him down when he dresses up but some days I just feel out of the loop .. Neglected ..

Am I off base here?? Suggestions or anything that can help me?
I have tried talking to him he just shuts down or won't talk about it. It feels like like he wants to say something but hold back.