I am overwhelmed with anxiety when i watch any form of sex/nudity/sexuality in films, tv, advertising, social media, music videos etc etc..

If my boyfriend wants to bring a movie over I check the 'parents guide' to see if there is anything in the film that will trigger me and 90% of the time it will have and then we can't watch it. It's horrible we can't even watch TV together because I am constantly waiting for something sexual to come up..
I have asked my boyfriend not to tell me about movies/tv shows he has recently watched because if I am aware of any sex/nudity in the movie, I become anxious and have negative thoughts which leads to arguments. I believe I act like this because I have low self-esteem and experienced sexual trauma when I was younger.

Does anyone else have similar phobias/anxieties? Do you know any strategies to help me overcome this?
Sometimes it does feel lonely and isolating