Have you mentioned that to him? The part about how it was a "he" thing and not a "we" thing in your agreement?

And have you talked to him about the fact that this just makes it harder on you rather than helping?

It really is so important to allow clients to have time to work up to replacing si with other coping mechanisms. Forcing someone into a no-harm agreement and expecting them to quit cold turkey is so much harder on them in long-run, no matter how good the intentions of the T are.

Also, it sounds like you feel like your T's very acceptance of you is conditional upon you giving up si. It should never be that way!! I think most of us would respond in the same way. I know that I would.

Why can't your T see that? Is he just not good with working with si, or has he allowed himself to get to his "wit's end" over this rather than being smart about it and realizing that change takes time (esp this particular change)? Or is this more of the clinic's deal really than his?

Again, I'm sorry you're going through this. You shouldn't have to be. ((((Mary Alice)))

Angela

-comfort the disturbed and disturb the comfortable-