I donīt think there has to be correlation between a T shaking hands and hugging you. Hugs are for many T:s going beyond proffessional boundaries. I also think that a proffessional T will know and feel if a client is ready for a hug or that he or she will ask the client.
To hug a client just out of nowhere would be unproffessional and if heīll hug you, make sure you feel ok with it. Or else, tell him. If you really donīt want a hug and that a possible hug scares I think you could tell your T this. Directly in session or if you feel embarrased about it, perhaps via e-mail if he offers contact by mail.
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Originally Posted by Seeking_Peace
I have read other threads here on hugging T's and some of you have mentioned that your T's have initiated hugs, especially after a hard session.
My T shook my hand during the end for first few sessions. During the last 2 sessions, he shook my hand in the beginning and end (both times he initiated). We have discussed some painful memories but I have not broken down (not yet anyway). I am wondering if the change in shaking hands in beginning AND end might be a clue that T may offer a hug down the road.
I want to clarify that T has been totally professional and I am perfectly ok with the handshakes. But the idea of hugging him is scary because I feel like I will act awkward and feel vulnerable. The handshakes alone make me feel vulnerable and I can't look him in the eye during those few seconds when we do it. Even though I know we have shook hands, I don't remember touching his hands (as in my hands go numb when I do it). I know there is no perfect answer to this and only time will tell......but I wanted to see from you all if there was a correlation between a T who shakes hands in the beginning and end of session, and being offered hugs as time goes by.
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