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she is strong cos she had to be strong, she had to be mom to her little brothers starting when she was all of 11.

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These are some amazing qualities your teenager displayed, so how about something like:
"You are so strong and competent despite the chaos in your life. You have so much love to offer your brothers. They will benefit always from your attention. I admire your courage."