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I was just shopping, well rather I stand and wait and my husband shops LOL, yes we're a back to front couple, he'd go in every shop and browse every section, me? 10mins and i want to escape.

Anyways, I was standing waiting and there was a child in a pram screaming that he wanted his pen back. His mother was kneeling down to hime calmly explaining that because he had written all over his shoes LOLPMP!!! he couldnt have it, and it was now packed away in the bag and that was that.

The child cried, and protested, and the mother continued abiding by what she said and let the child throw his tantrum and continued to stand up and push the pram and continue on her way.

I was in that moment so at one with that childs frustration LOL! I was seeing the mother as T, doing the "right" thing, LOL but I so know how that 2 or 3yr old felt like and wanted to run up and sit in the pram with the kid and let the "mummy" rescue me and make my life ok LOL

I saw how I try to force T into rescuing me, try to force her to give into my feelings because I can't bear them LOL, I mean if she weren't away next week, I'd feel so much better LOL

I guess this is one of those times when T's absence is leading to me to have to work through this yukky frustration feeling that is going round and round in my body, cept when I protest, I dont look at innocent and cute as that 2yr old LOL!!

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WOW, this experience you had watching the child.... and applying to your situation... you have amazing insight. I think if T said, "I am taking a break because I want to," I would probably just die. So I feel your pain. But I think your T is hitting you with the reality of what is normal in human life because she thinks you can handle it. And you can. You are handling it at this moment. You are doing the work.