Currently my husband and I aren't really talking. We're both currently depressed. He's my best friend and I treat him so. If I'm being an *** and realize, I start doing nice things like I would do for a friend who's dating an ***. It doesn't mean I'll stop being an ***. I'll just be an *** that shows that even through everything I still care. He does the same. We can't promise we wont fly off the handle, spend rent, become suicidal, or psychotic but in our moments of clarity we can hold each other, tell each other we love them, and do little special things.