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Old Jan 21, 2015, 09:57 PM
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Originally Posted by PaulaS View Post
You made an interesting point. Could you please explain more in detail what you mean by "trying to paint with a hammer". I canīt completely ignore the method as there are several kinds of therapy that wonīt suit me. For example rythmics therapy.

Because of that I have to ask them about how they practise therapy. But I agree with you itīs also much about the feeling you get when you talk to a new T. I try to look at that perspective as well as how likely it is they will be able to help me based on their knowledge and experience. You canīt get any guarantees but Iīm extra cautious because of my therapy history.
Maybe it wasnt a great metaphor! I just meant that I don't think you're using the right tool for the job. I don't think a therapist can tell you how they will help you because how can they really know before they know you? Stuff just comes up, no? Therapy is messy, unplanned, non-linear, full of surprises. All they can do is be there, listen, not judge, reflect and start again next week. If their technique is wacky that will make itself apparent very quickly. No therapist can fake good listening, respect and true acceptance for long. If you don't have that, you have nothing--no matter how smart or educated or well-read they are. And if you do have it, a little unfamiliarity with their modality won't likely matter too much.
Thanks for this!
guilloche, Lauliza