How invalidating of that therapist! I think sometimes they think that if they agree with our assessment of our trauma that we will then get stuck on victim-hood. My first therapist was like that.. and the invalidation kept me stuck I'm trying to get validation. My current therapist, however, validated the way o felt... and that set me free. I really needed to know that i wasn't crazy. Especially because abusers have good techniques about making you think you're crazy or it's you're fault.