That's the weird thing. He slams cupboards or swears and pourts, but outrageous behavior like this has only happened a few times. In fact we broke up once for a few mos bc I actually feared for my safety and then once for a day bc I was just totally blindsided by his behavior. The very first time I thought it was a fluke. So in 9 years he's had 5 really scary bizarre meltdowns. We are in couples counseling so I'll bring it up there. I really love the guy so it would be great if he could find a better way to cope but I certainly don't want to keep reliving this pattern over and over.