I believe we can be free through the method of stopping the hate we have for ourselves. Just ask yourself "how long are you going to hate yourself?" Say it just like that, not: "how long am I going to hate myself? It has to be said YOU. Then, do not answer the question. Just listen to the question and allow yourself a new sense of quiet in your mind. Just let the question sink into the silence. Then you will begin to notice the habit in even little things that you do that reflect a not allowing yourself to be happy. When you exhibit the bad behavior (even a bad thought), just ask the question - and don't answer it. Just see that it is true, and it will fall away. You will discover a new source of energy and freedom. You may also discover that self-hate is really what hate is - all hate stems from self hate. Good luck.