Well I have a past history of abuse so this might not be the norm, or maybe it is IDK.

When my H asked me to describe sex and how it feels. I told him it was no an answer he really wanted to hear. But he persisted, so I told him.

It is very similar to ummm....... picking your nose. It is one thing with a hole and something else getting put in that hole. You don't have orgasms from picking your nose. on occasion though you might get the big boogie but that is just a positive sensation. No orgasm, no nothing that is encouraging to do it again.

Rarely does a woman have an orgasm alone. It can involve sensations of fullness, or friction, or nothing. I get a feeling of nothing most of the time. Again this is coming from some one with a past history of sexual abuse. So it ma not be completely accurate.

As for part two of you thread....It is not uncommon for stimulation to be painful when alone or with a partner if thee is a history of abuse. Or even if there is no history like that. Some people are just wired that way. That is when keeping your clothes on or having a barrier of some sort between you and the area being stimulated. Often with a guy you trust you will learn that he s not going to hurt you, and you will find what kind of touches work for you.