you said you both have some mental issues, you have to work with each other and your problems more so than being in a relationship that has no real issues. your bf you may not know what he is really thinking, maybe he's going through something he can't fully express because of his illnesses. you said you even have issues. i'm not saying to dwell on mental issues, i'm just saying it's a factor in your realtionship. maybe you do need some couples counseling to get an outside professional opinion.