I have issues with my boyfriend. We met in 1999 and dated for 4 years. We broke up for 3 years and have been back together for about a year.

We've been talking about getting married for the past few months. He picked out and put a deposit on an engagement ring and has been paying it off...

But he hasn't formally proposed. We have a tentative date, he actually bugged me to show him some wedding dresses that I like, and we've looked at places for a reception.

When I asked him if I should tell people we are engaged, he said no, we are not. But he also said it's just about the money - he has to pay off the ring...

Now we have been fighting because I think it's misleading to have me try on wedding dresses and then tell me we aren't engaged.

He's not the type to be a jerk, but I don't know what's going on.