I am a 24 yo male medical student and I have a fetish for male underwear/embarasment/wedgies. Sounds weird, I know. I'm a medical student and you'd never know it by looking at my accomplishments. Truth is this fetish piece of my identity tears me apart slowly every day.
I want to be a family doctor when I graduate. All I want is the enjoyment of helping heal my neighbors, and the simple joy of raising a family. I want kids and a beautiful wife and a crazy family to love. I used to think that getting perfect grades and getting into medical school and advancing my career was what I cared about but its not. I realize being a father and being loved and loving others is what's true and pure in life...
I mention this because I feel like my fetish is taking all that away from me. Its not something I can control. I'm a virgin and feel like I always will be. I recently dated a beautiful kind woman who I couldnt love because I was too anxious about how I would never be able to perform in bed. I could never enjoy myself enough when we were out places. I realize that your sexual attraction to someone in a relationship is huge and is a crucial part of any relationship. I can't get an erection over females because of my stupid fetish, even though I love women, am engaged when making out, but am anxious.
Its not that I'm gay. I've explored that a little bit and it's not who I am either. In fact, I might be happier that I could finally LOVE someone if that was the case but its not. I can only love inanimate underwear that I put on and movie scenes.
I saw one psychiatrist because I realized I can't help my self alone but I wasnt impressed. He said since I'm still high functioning that my problem isnt significant enough to treat. I have no better idea right now of if or not it's treatable or fixable. I dont know how to do this by meself and that's exactly how I feel - alone.
I hate that I have this stupid fetish. I hate every part of it. I've never acted on it to hurt others or anything like that. But it stands to be the sole reason why I can never love anyone and will be alone forever. I think about 'why me' all the time and hate that I was made this way. So many people take their sexuality for granted. I want to help myself or get help but dont know what to do.

is there anyone else out there that has had a similar problem? Anyone know if this can be fixed? Im so scared about my future and I just want to be healthy.