Yes, I'm in the "deer in headlights if I don't prepare" camp. I write out an outline, print out posts that I've made here that I need to share with T, and sometimes write out things that I don't think I'll be able to say, so he can read them. I basically show up with a notebook and a file folder full of papers!

The one time I didn't prepare with current T, however, he handled it so well. I didn't have anything I wanted to talk about, and he managed to get me talking about my past... not the scary bad parts, but things that I think were still useful for him to hear. Maybe. At least I was talking, and not re-traumatized by it... so yay for that!