I think it is "normal" to be sad. Like you said, this changes how you live your life. Other people might be well meaning and try to push you through the process of accepting and changing, but it sure doesn't work like that. It takes the time it takes.

And no, it's not a "nice" cancer at all. It's actually very mean. The only reason it is manageable is that they found good meds for it. In the quite recent past, the meds for it only helped people live a few years. So it's still a bad butt cancer, it just has much better meds now.

Also, if people say "at least it's not a worse type of cancer", well first of all, the "at least" almost always signals there is some kind of lack of understanding, it rarely helps comforting anyone. Also I wonder if they say it more for themselves than you! They say At least it's treatable but inside they might think Whew! I will not lose this lovely person soon.

I hope I make sense. (I notice I rarely do...)

If it was me I wouldn't take this well. I don't think anyone would. But sometimes people don't know what to say, and some people want to fast track us to mental recovery like if that is possible... Ugh.

Wishing you well.