Oh honey. <3 This just breaks my heart!
I am so sorry you didn't have normal bedtime stuff.
It's normal and natural to crave your mothers love, approval and acceptance. Totally normal. I am *30* and am really close to my Mumma still. I need her love, approval and acceptance.
I know that knowing that changes nothing for you though.
I think your mother has some pretty serious problems of her own, and you wear some of the shyt from that.
I wish I could tuck you in tongiht.