Did you see/try on the ring and how do you know he's paying on it? He may be trying on a few scenarios trying to get accustomed to the idea, back in to it all as-it-were like sabau2 says or something. But I would talk to him, tell him your frustrations as he's the only one that can answer? I maybe wouldn't try on the dresses for him if he's not going to let you try on the ring and be engaged :-) But I agree it isn't fair and sounds a bit "fishy" to be having it all his way.