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I think a brief visit to what intimacy means shows it can mean many things
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Webster’s College Dictionary (2010) gives several definitions of intimacy.
the state of being intimate
a close, familiar, and affectionate personal relationship
a close association with or deep understanding of a place, subject, etc.
an act or expression serving as a token of familiarity or affection
a sexual liberty
privacy – especially as suitable to the telling of a secret
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I think these are a start, but defining what you mean by intimacy, physical, emotional or spiritual, might inspire a deeper response.
I think you have to start with the same intention. If one wants a romantic 2 hour getting to know you and one wants a quick flash in the pan, then there is a lot of work to do in that relationship.