We are so different. I am an artistic person who loves to be together. He is an engineer person who loves his work. I end up feeling neglected . My feelings and wants feel side lined by his busy important schedule. His work is volunteered so it isn't about money. He used to work and got paid but now he is involved in a project that may pay off but has already been going on for the last three years. However, he does love it. Most days I am okay but when I want more he still goes his way. This week I ended up very hurt when all I wanted was a little more time for pleasant conversation in the morning. I spoke to him about trying Saturday to do it differently. He agreed we could but I have acres of hurt. One of the problems is that he is four years younger than me. I was ready ages ago to retire and have free time to travel or at least be flexible. Two very different goals. I did travel some on my own and sometimes went with him on business trips but I got tired of being alone. Added hurt is he doesn't really get it or really get me. I feel bruised. We have been married a long time. I guess I wanted a turn. Some counseling helped change the schedule but it is mostly consistent all the years. Work is mostly the winner and I am consistently struggling. I do love him. I somewhat understand. But day after day it gets very hard. I try to be enjoyable but when I am in pain it really hurts physically to feel this way. I have spoken to him about all this and to counselors but in the end it feels the same. I do go out some and we do go out together for lunch or something but the pain influences my choices in trying to seek comfort. Right now I would like a big ole ice cream with lots of fixings. My weight and health really don't allow.