In my experience, many people find any cognitive or behavioral approach to feel invalidating and anger-producing at first. It's not just DBT, but any technique that suggests part of our distress may come from the way we look at things or think about them or believe or act. It feels blaming. At first. I've seen people freak out just reading a standard list of cognitive distortions and feeling like the list was "trying to say it's all my own fault." It's a rough feeling at first. Could any of that apply to you?

But I've also been left cold at times by certain facilitators who lack warmth and humor or the ability to pick up on nuances. If they come on all mechanical, it's a complete turn-off for me, although I highly prefer cognitive and behavioral approaches over others. As others have said, it takes all kinds of therapy because there are all kinds of people and problems in the world.