I can't do dbt because of how closely it mirrors the way I was raised. I can totally relate to feeling invalidated and shamed by it (and I've tried it 7 separate and distinct times, for several months at a time, with different facilitators and in different programs). I find the incessant focus on skills without the ability to process anything that is triggered very difficult to process. I learn by talking about things with someone I trust and processing what happened, why, how to do it differently next time. Dbt never gave me the feeling that my concerns were being heard or that my experience was being understood. All the responses I got when I tried to address the way I felt about it were insisting that I was "resistant" and "wilful" without any meaningful suggestions on how to make the program work for me.
it's definitely not for everyone.