I don't have a fetish and I agree with Jelly-Bean. Your problem may not have been serious enough for that particular pdoc -- maybe he deals with severely mentally ill people and a fetish doesn't mean a person is ill -- but you're still deserving of help.

I'd recommend a non-medical therapist or even a therapist specializing in sex problems. There could be several ways to go at addressing the fetish. For example, maybe a therapist could help you accept it without shame or help you let it go or help you feel more comfortable with your performance anxiety so your romantic life can improve.

There's nothing wrong or sinful or shameful or harmful or bad about your fetish, as long as you don't use it to harm others. The only unfavorable thing is that it's causing you so much distress and interfering with your intimate relationship

Somewhere along the line you got turned on by this particular thing. I don't know if people have success getting rid of fetishes -- many fetish lovers post here and maybe they can answer -- but I do know that people can successfully learn to accept themselves, channel their sexual fetishes in a way that doesn't harm themselves or anyone else and learn how to let go of shame. You deserve that. I hope you will find a therapist to help you.

I wish you the best.