I thought the problems I was having in my marriage were my fault UNTIL I LEFT & found out that I wasn't even anything like the person I was while living in the marriage with him......It was his behaviors that pushed me to that point....& pushed me to the overflow place.

As soon as I left (moved 2100 miles away).....I realized that the person I was in the marriage wasn't who I really was......because if it was, then I still would have been that same person after I left.....& it turned out that it was nothing like who I really was.

Don't blame everything on problems you think you have......he can be driving you to be those things.....

GET AWAY FROM HIM & figure out who you really are. You don't need a psychologist to work with you through the leaving process....you need to just NOT have anything more to do with him.......

Unless you have some co-dependent thing going on & you don't feel that you can leave without someone there pushing you.....but in reality.....T's don't do that in the first place.....they try to make you understand what you need to do & YOU HAVE TO DO IT ON YOUR OWN......they may or may not give the support you think you are going to receive from them.

Shoot.....my psychologists never realized that the problems (even my suicide attempts) were really because I was trapped in the bad marriage....not JUST because of the loss of my engineering career. I didn't even figure that out until I finally was able to leave......also found out what was causing his behaviors is something that most people struggle & fight against also.....so I realized that it wasn't me but a normal reaction to the situation I was forced to live in at the time.

GET OUT....& GET OUT NOW....if you only see him on weekends....just stop seeing him on weekends......& cut off all communication......no big deal.....you will be surprised at the person you really are after you quit dealing with all the crap you have been allowing yourself to be forced into dealing with.