Mary Alice,

I want to second what Erin said. Didn't you read the DBT book? I got that book and read it too because you asked me to. DBT isn't the only way to deal with your difficulties, but it sounds like a good program to me. What did you think of the book? I didn't have time to get all the way through it before I had to turn it back in (interlibrary loan), but I thought there was a lot of good stuff in there. If you think that DBT could help you, and apparently your T thinks it can, then what is your objection to following his advice and doing the whole program, including the groups?

If you disagree with DBT, then I recommend finding a different T who is prepared to use a different approach. An alternative would be to find someone who specializes in trauma and can treat you from that perspective. Whichever you decide, I do hope you talk it out with your T. The things that he is requiring of you are for a reason and are what he believes are in your best interest. He may or may not be right, but both of you deserve the opportunity to discuss it and to discuss possible alternatives if this isn't the method for you.

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Wendy

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