I think both Rap and Erin make great points.

It seems to me like the central problem with the T and the group and all this is really about the relationship with the T, though, more than it is about the group. (Correct me if I'm wrong, Mary Alice).

Mary Alice seems to be struggling with the fact that her T is forcing her to "go to this group OR ELSE"... kinda thing. My prediction would be that she might be a little more comfortable with the idea, and more "co-operative" if she felt like she and her T were working TOGETHER to help her, rather than feeling like she is being, in effect, treated like a child who cannot make appropriate choices of her own. Her T did not present the ups and downs of DBT therapy and then give her a choice. He told her she has to go. Period.

The overall tone of your posts, Mary Alice, makes it sound like the central issues are of trust, therapeutic rapport, having a co-operative working relationship with your T, etc. I get the impression that those are the biggest concerns for you. Tell me if I'm wrong.

(((hugs)))
Angela

-comfort the disturbed and disturb the comfortable-