Hi coyote, I'm sorry you had that happen to you.........but it's just really good that you weren't injured
Your safety is worth way more than a dent!! And why be mad at yourself?? Really??
You had every right to assume that you were going to be able to settle things with her/the insurance company as she said she was getting her paperwork. Can't go around assuming people are lying without some real evidence, so nothing whatsoever wrong with you not rushing to get her number.
And her...........well maybe she didn't have insurance, maybe she shouldn't have been driving the car, maybe she couldn't afford to have it go through the insurance..........not that any of those things makes it OK for her to just take off.......but no changing it now, and she's done enough damage to your car without letting it impact on you personally/the way you're feeling too. Just remember that fortunately not everyone is like that, and real good that you're OK/weren't injured!!!!

Alison