I too think you don't need to justify yourself.

26 years with a miserable, high maintenance woman who just causes you pain. Sounds like walking on eggshells...

Move on, and have the kind of life you enjoy. You deserve happiness.

The kind of BS, controlling behaviours are just dodgy. She is an adult, responsible for her OWN happiness, and her own life.

She can choose to blame you for everything that is wrong in her life, there may even be some truth to it, and she may believe it is your fault, or she can move on and accept the parting.

You aren't responsible for her happiness. Only SHE can manage her own life.