I do feel that my therapist gets me, but even then, she is still learning. My therapy is not about our relationship, though. I mean, having a good fit and trust is very important, but I'm not there to work out relationship issues through her. I'm in therapy because of things in my life, right now, that are causing me problems and link directly back to the past. Building trust with her helps get to those other things, but that's as far as it goes in terms of "us."

I read your previous post. I wonder if you talked about the problems that you are currently having, outside of your relationship to him (the SI), you might find more benefit to therapy. He doesn't sound like the type who uses your relationship with him to deal with deeper issues, so choosing a therapist who does might also be another option.