labyrinth,

Your story sounds an awful lot like mine. You may want to look at the symptoms for dependent personality disorder:

<A target="_blank" HREF=http://psychcentral.com/disorders/sx13.htm>http://psychcentral.com/disorders/sx13.htm</A>

A therapist certainly help, but I have found that I can be just the way you mentioned...it's very easy to fall into dependency when I am with someone. I know this isn't a particularly attractive solution, but I have been completely on my own for two years now, and I am finally finding that I am capable of making decisions for myself, and standing on my own.

I know that's probably not something that someone would chose, but another thing you might try is consciously practice making decisions for yourself...like, chose for yourself instead of asking other people's opinion. Not on everything, but evrey now and then, to demonstrate that you are capable of handling things all on your own.

Good luck.

mj

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